My Bad Blogging Behaviors

I’ve been blogging for over 6 months. That means I’m a 1/16 expert on blogging. I’m really not in a position to share what bloggers should do, but I can share what not to do based on my own bad blogging behavior.

When I started my blog, I did a lot of things right. I created a vision for my blog, and I participated in WordPress blogging courses. I learned a lot about how to blog effectively early in my blogging career. I avoided many mistakes and connected with a lot of other bloggers.

Even with all this assistance and guidance, I still managed to make some novice blogger mistakes.

 6. I worried about SEO.

Image via Geralt

Image via Geralt

SEO? More like SE-No!

There is a ton of advice out there about SEO, and most of it is contradictory. One blog expert says to follow these SEO tips and tricks. Another expert blogger says those tips and tricks are dumb, and I should follow their awesome SEO suggestions. And then that expert blogger will have a guest SEO expert blogger who says something completely different about search engine optimization! On top of that, other blogperts just want me to buy their ebooks so I can learn all about the real power of SEO. Stop it already!

Lesson Learned: Worrying about SEO is a waste of my time. It has nothing to do with why I am blogging, and I just don’t care about it. Instead, I need to focus on good blogging practices like the following:

  • Have an easy to navigate blog
  • Have an easy to read blog
  • Write great, engaging content
  • Interact with visitors and other blogger
  • Have interesting headlines
  • Make it easy for visitors to explore my archives

5. I compared myself to other bloggers.

Comparison, thief of joy

Why did I worry about others’ stats, views, comments, writing style, blogging style, awards, or anything else? Blog envy was a colossal waste of my time. I should focus on who I am as a blogger and sharing my content in the most effective way. Other bloggers should be seen as a source of inspiration not frustration.

I like my blog. I like the people who visit my blog. I like the blogs I visit. My purpose for blogging is to share my adventures in teaching and learning. I’m doing so much more than I originally expected, and it has been a great ride. I shouldn’t sully my experience worrying about how I compare to others. I ain’t got time for that.

Lesson Learned: Teddy Roosevelt was right when he said, “Comparison is the thief of joy”. All that comparison stuff is dumb. It’s about inspiration not comparison.

4. During the months I was really busy and posted less, I didn’t engage with other bloggers or readers.

moreAugust-October is always a busy time for me. School is back in session, Fall TV premieres are happening, and the Louisiana heat is less hellish so doing outside stuff is awesome. I posted once a week, but I neglected to set some time aside to read and comment on other blogs. During this slow posting period, I still had a surprising steady stream of daily visits. I’d like to say I was too busy to check out at least one blog a week, but I’d be lying. I missed out on some great opportunities to engage and connect with other bloggers and readers.

Lesson Learned: When I post less, I should at least continue to take time to engage with others and read blogs especially blogs I follow. Furthermore, posting and disappearing was was of boring. If I don’t have a lot of time to post, I should use that time to interact with others and share my archives.

3. I made (make) a lot of simple writing errors.

When I reread my posts, I always find mistakes. This infuriates me. I swear I edit and spell check my posts, but some mistakes still get buy. It makes me so mad. I have found that these simple errors happen less the more I write, but they still happen. I guess that’s progress, right?



Lesson Learned: Keep proofing posts. I need a day or two between posts so that I have fresh eyes when I edit. I still may make mistakes; don’t sweat it.

2.  I tried to do too much social media stuff at once.


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I’m a newish blogger. You know how many people interact via social media with a new blogger who has a super modest following and who only posts about her blog? None!

Did anyone care about my Facebook group? Nope. What about my Tumblr? Nah. Pintrest? Just my real life friends, and people who really like doors. How about Instagram? Not sure, not on it. Bloglovin? Ugh. I never could get my posts to look right.

I tried to do too much at once and ending up getting nothing done. I was doing such a poor job of keeping up with all my blog’s social media. It was too much, and I didn’t enjoy it. I was trying to be like other bloggers (Ugh. The comparison monster again.) who had mastered blogging and multiple social media platforms. I was just not there yet, and that’s fine.

Having my posts publish automatically to social media with no engagement was not productive. I forgot about the social part and was just focused on the media.  Turned out, people don’t like that. In November, I decided to focus on just Twitter and use it effectively. I’ve been surprised by the results. Twitter has been a good outlet for me professionally and bloggingly. Later, I can add other types social media engagement.

Lesson Learned: Social media is about engagement. Having posts publish automatically to social media platforms without any engagement was ineffective. Instead of doing a bunch of social media poorly, focus on one and do that well.  Do social media right, or don’t do it at all.

1. I obsessed about my stats.

I am guilty of constantly checking my stats. All the time. It’s what I like least about blogging. My daily visitors and followers have grown steadily over over the past 6 months. That’s a good thing, but I don’t need to look at my stats 30 times a day to know how many people are visiting my blog. I could use that time reading other blogs, writing, or engaging on social media instead of obsessively looking at my very modest stats. All this stat checking is wasting my time and killing my blog fun. I need to build a bridge and get over it.

Lesson Learned: Like Elsa, I am going to let it go. Once a day check maximum. Hopefully, I’ll get to the point I rarely check.

My stats never bothered me anyway.

My stats never bothered me anyway.


What are your bad blogging or social media behaviors?


26 thoughts on “My Bad Blogging Behaviors

    • I’ve finally figured that if you follow basic good writing, linking, and blogging tips your SEO should be fine.

      I’m still guilty of the comparison thing from time to time. It’s because I’m competitive for no good reason.

  1. FABULOUS post! I am guilty of a few of these as well.

    Comparison and stats got me early in the blogging game. It took me almost a year and a half to “let it go” and enjoy the process. I do still monitor my stats — but rather than a daily thing, I document everything monthly. I do this because I apply for sponsored posts on a regular basis and because I’ve set goals for myself.

    SEO is mind-boggling. I have the SEO Yoast plugin and I fill in the blanks and if it makes my blog more visible in search engines… then it does. If it doesn’t, well, it’s not like I’m wasting lots of time on it.

    Thanks so much for sharing.

    Happy New Year!

    • I’m glad you dropped by. I’m still working on the stats thing.I’m not checking constantly like I was, but I can still do better. I often have to tell myself no when I want to check. I should go to stats rehab. Watching a pot boil is really no fun.

      Since I’m on WP and not self-hosted, there isn’t much I can do SEO wise on my own. I’m glad I learned about it because now I’ve concluded it’s waaaaay too much. Using a plugin as a self-hosted site sounds like the smart way to go. You really can’t do too much more anyway.

      Thanks again!

  2. Don’t look at your stats! Seriously they mean nothing go on how many people are leaving you comments and actual blog interaction than a number. I check my stats once a month to update my media kit and that’s it

    • Once a month!!! I hope I can get there Alice. I’m doing well to look once(ish) a day. But I’m doing so much better. Small steps.

      You are absolutely correct though. I have great people who visit my blog regularly & I have more interaction than I every expected. That’s what really matters to me. So I really need to throw those stats in the wind.

      Thanks for dropping by. 🙂

  3. I think you are spot on with learning how to drop the competition and just be yourself except for #3 and simple errors. Part of my rationalization to start a blog was to allow myself to be a sloppy blogger. I could spend all day writing and perfecting a blog post and I’d rather spend that time on writing my books. I also have an editor for my books and I don’t for my blog, so I just try to do my best between weighing my time and my NEED to get it right.

    Plus for some reason I don’t really catch the mistakes until after I post. One day I was really going at it with catching a mistake and posting, then catching another mistake and when I was finished I went to my e-mail and I found that there was an e-mail for every single change I made. I was mortified. I thought I was slipping changes in for new readers and here every change I made was being announced!

    I don’t know if I have my settings on something or other, because I don’t see this “feature” for anyone else if they have edited theirs, but this little e-mail event kept me in check to just let some things slide.

    • I’m not sure if that happens to my followers when I update. I hope not.

      I’m trying to take the mistakes thing in stride now that I see we all deal with it. It makes me feel better to know I’m not alone. 🙂 My mistakes aren’t huge ones, and I when I do make those mistakes (only like 3 in over 100 posts)- I have great followers who are kind with their suggestions. I actually don’t get upset with those mistakes. I appreciate the extra pair of eyes. We are in it together.

      It’s the little mistakes that really don’t matter and most people don’t notice that chap my hide. I’m learning to get over this and not beat myself up. Thanks again for your support. 😀

  4. Love this post. There’s so much pressure in blogging to keep up with the trends and compete with fellow bloggers, when all that actually takes away from the ‘fun stuff.’ I think the most important thing about having a blog is having great CONTENT. Yes, you’ll want exposure and that takes some work, but at the end of the day, content is what’s going to keep them comin’ back. And I find typos in my posts all the time! We’re only human 🙂

    • Thanks. I agree about great content- it’s what keeps me coming back. I’m starting to feeling better about my typos.

      Thanks so much for dropping by. I’m glad I found you too.

  5. Wow so on..thank you a great post …….. stats I just have to keep looking I think I need to disable that button or connect to the electric..but will try.Happy Christmas.

    • Thanks. I wish they had a disable button too. This once a day look is killing me, and I’m not really doing the best job keeping up my end of the bargain. But I did a lot better today.

      Stat checking- just say no!

      Thanks for visiting and Happy Christmas to you too!

  6. It’s funny that you mention SEO, because I worried about it too, but for a different reason. Because Victim To Charm is a song title, I figured my blog would always get lost among lyrics pages and album reviews and such of the band that wrote it. Then last month somebody mentioned to me that when you google the title, my site is the 4th result. He said, “Wow, you must be really good at all that SEO stuff.” And I was shocked, because I wasn’t doing ANYTHING to boost SEO as far as I knew.

    • I read somewhere that besides following smart website/blogging practices, there isn’t a whole bunch else you need to do for SEO besides engaging in social media. If you try to do too much junk, it may hurt you in the end. Google is moody about that. Most of the big blogs I’ve followed never did that poop anyway. I have an educator’s blog. I don’t need to worry about all that.

      FYI: I secretly was bitter at you for like two seconds because I thought your blog name was soooooooo cool. It is a cool name. 😛

      • Exactly! All that SEO nonsense sometimes ends up being more detrimental than helpful.
        It is a cool name! But I didn’t come up with it (and I admit that on my About page). I actually do have a second name that occurred to me about a month ago, but obviously it’s WAY too late to change it. If I ever were to create a second blog, though…

  7. great post, I agree 100% with everything on your list. I’m sticking with here and Twitter and I try to engage as much as I can keeping in mind that I have a fulltime job and a life.
    Not sure about Bloglovin, haven’t really taken the time to check it out but for now I already have enough on my plate.
    One thing I’ve found that helps for typos and proofing really is to have someone else take a look at it before you post. It’s great if you can set a draft aside for a day or two and come back to it with fresh eyes, but I find that if there’s stuff I didn’t see the first time, I probably won’t see it the 2nd or 3rd time either. If you can, a different set of eyes is better.

    • I agree Norm. I’m actually working on that when it comes to my longer posts.

      I decided I’m not interested in using Bloglovin’ as a social media outlet for now. I’m going to use it like an RSS feed for non-WPcom bloggers because I don’t want emails.

  8. On the typo thing as well … I always expect at least one typo in everything I write. (after due diligence, of course) It kinda takes the pressure off that perfection thing.

    I’ve never done the SEO thing. I researched it so I knew what I was rejecting, and sure it might help to a certain degree but it’s like writing stories – you can lead someone to your blog/novel/etc, but unless the content grabs ’em, they’re gone in 5 seconds or after the first few paragraphs.

    And just so you know … I like reading your posts. 🙂

    • Awww, thanks Widdershins. I like reading your posts too.

      And you are right about all the tricks don’t work unless the content is good. I even read a post where an “expert” said not to worry about great content. That was the suggestion- Don’t worry about writing good content. Why would people stay if you aren’t bringing something worth reading? Puh-Lease!

  9. About typos… you’re probably the only one who notices them, and if others do, don’t worry about it. We are human, and we all make mistakes. Besides, that’s what the edit button is for. ^_^

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